The First Cut is the Deepest: Sheryl Crow

I would have given you all of my heart

But there’s someone who’s torn it apart

And he’s taken just all that I have

But if you want I’ll try to love again

Baby, I’ll try to love again, but I know…

What's Playing in Your iPod Looser?

I have been so busy being happy that I forgot to give back to society - to help the poor (read: the broken hearted), the needy (read: those who refuse to move on) and the unemployed (read: those who have moved on but are single).

I would like to recommend the following breakup songs for the broken hearted. Ayan, ayaw nyo pa mag move-on? Hala cge, pakalunod kayo kakaiyak as if naman babalikan pa kayo nun:

1. The Day You Went Away (Wendy Matthews)
Panalo ka dito. You'll feel like as if your world will fall apart. Take it from me, naka-relate ako dito. Ta-tanga-tanga kasi.

2. Love Me Like The First Time (Stacy Lattisaw)
Cge, mag-ilusyon ka na babalikan ka pa nya. Hello... hindi. Move on ka na lang....dami mo pang arte.

3. I Just Had To Hear Your Voice (Oletta Adams)
The first time I played this song... kala ko naman feel good song ini... hindi! Ayan, kung di ka pa kuntento sa kakaiyak, tawagan mo pa... pakatanga ka ulit!

4. Missing You (Case)
Isa pa to. Lalo na, this is one of the songs I last gave my ex para sa ipod nya. Aba malay ko ba naman magiging relevant ito. (Come to think of it, may 2 cds pala ako sa ex ko.. o well.....good luck if I could still find a copy of those)

5. I Believe (Blessid Union of Souls)
Ito ay isang version ng Wishing And Hoping And Praying. Uhm... hello, move on na nga eh ano ba!

6) Why (Avril Lavigne)
Kung psychologist ka naman or pshychiatrist or plainly psychotic.. ito ang song for you. Hala ubusin mo ang oras mo kakaisip bakit ka nya iniwan. Hint: Di ka na nya mahal... weeeeh! Dali move on na!

7. Back Here (BBMak)
I love BBmak.. pero nunca na magustuhan ko itong kantang ito. Naman.. Back here? Hello.... ilusyunado ka? Feeling mo babalikan ka? Untog mo nga yang ulo mo!

8. I Wish I wasn't In Love With You(Heather Headley)
I recommend the dance version, the one that comes as part of Anton Ramos' Chillout Project. Bakit? Eh dahil gusto ko eh, bakit ka ba nangingialam ha? Blog ko to eh!

9. Teardrops (I forgot the artist)
Anyway hindi ako mahilig sa sobrang emote na songs so I am recommending this.

10. Bleeding Love (Leona Lewis)
Isa pa to.. again, get the dance remix version. At pwede ba, go out on a date!

There are still a lot of beautiful songs to choose from but ayoko i-recommend coz MOVING ON is what were trying to accomplish.

Sa mga nagaatempt mag-move on and sa mga nakapag-move on na, these songs are for you:

1. I Never really Loved You Anyway (The Corrs)
This is my number one. I make sure na kapag iniwan ko or iniwanan ako, hindi ko babalikan.

2. Girl Friend (Avril Lavigne)
Ayan, this song is telling you to flirt, go out on dates and find a new GF/BF. Dont worry if at the first few attempts you dont find the right person.. hello remember youre on the rebound, take it easy muna. Remember, we dont make mistakes, we just date them.

3. Migraine (Moonstar88)
I like this one in particular. Its you telling yourself TAMA NA. Umayos ka na kung ayaw mo masaktan or kung ayaw mong saktan kita.

4. Why Do All Good Things Coe to An End (Nelly Furtado)
Again... wag magpakadalubhasa in trying to figure out what went wrong. Carry lang yan

5. The First Cut Is The Deepest (Sheryl Crow)
Now this is truly a moving on song. Its you telling your new partner that youre ready to fall again.

6) Not Ready To Make Nice (Dixie Chicks)
Kung bitter ka pa rin sa kakainom ng Charantia... ito ang para sayo.

7. Outta My Head (Ashlee Simpson)
This is you forcing to get your ex off your mind.. off your heart na rin. Malay mo sa kaka-listen mo nito matauhan ka.

8. Moving On Up (M People)
Panalo din ito. Listen to it. Sabi ko listen... hindi dance to it.

9. Another Suitcase In Another Hall (Madonna)
Its you telling yourself youre moving on despite not knowing how. May kukontra pa ba kay Madonna?

10. Its Too Late To Apologize (One Republic)
You tell yourself at this point, whatever left unsaid or not discussed by you and your ex... wala na yun... apologize nya mukha nya di ba. Hayaan mo na yung tao... tandaan mo palagi, be kind to animals.

11. Can We Still Be Friends (Todd Rundgren/Mandy Moore)
Leche ka, naghahanap ka talagang sakit ng ulo ano? Anong friends friends ka dyan? As a general rule, if you and your ex were friends first before you became an item why not. Kung hindi naman, tigilan ang ilusyon (sabagay libre mangarap) and dont bother your ex. Remember, kung mahal ka nun, di ka iniwan nun hehehehehe.

12. Slow Me Down (Emmy Rossum)
The process of moving on is also a healing process. Wag madaliin. If you want to just sleep around then do so with no strings attached. A good advice... sleep with your ex's ex! Hahahaha ....... Trust me, you'll learn a lot.

13. Goodbye My Lover (James Blunt)
Ayan tama yan.. Mag-Goodbye ka na.. nag-goodbye na nga yung tao sayo eh! Isa pa.. ang training wag kalimutan.. hindi tayo umiiyak, tayo ang iniiyakan.

So there you have it.. my contribution to society. If you want advice on love, call the National Center for Mental Health, wag ako ... busy ako being happy.

Flowers and Badmintron Don't Mix

Flowers really freak me out … especially if i have to carry these walking around in public… more so if I have to go to a sportsfest carrying a bouquet of flowers … eeeek! I do understand and I appreciate that my Bubu was just being so sweet and thoughtful … but flowers???? I could have sworn the moment I got the text that I am in for a surprise, I almost lost my marbles, and yes my jaw practically dropped to the floor when I saw the flowers. Nobody gives me flowers. Nobody has… ever. Especially not at 4:30 in the afternoon and at a mall. I automatically turned into an asshole and started an argument which lasted until the rest of the day. So we’re clear…no more flowers! Right Bubu?

I now have a feel of what stage parents are like… in my case, I am the proud BF of a badminton powerhouse (my bubu). I had to brave the heat of the Meralco gym to show my immoral (hehehe) support for my bubu’s team….and yes, all the BFs are there hahahaha. Were like typical pleasantville husbands waiting for our wives to finish their salon extravaganza. It is indeed true that one does crazy things for love … life suffocating in a not so well ventilated gym without air conditioning (and I cannot stand any room without an aircon). Ang galing pala mag badminton ng asawa ko! But seriously…. I am going to die if I have to do this again next week……

Next project.. let’s see you dance……

An Open Letter From Josh Fuller

I am posting an entry from the blog of Josh Fuller as a response to my posts at my journals in Pic-link. Here goes:


To lafouge - An open letter

Owner: joshfuller2005
Created on: Jun 05 2008 @ 02:30 PM
Last Updated: Jun 05 2008 @ 02:37 PM
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Mood: Normal


Hi lafouge,

Hello, I don’t know how to call you but let me share to you my insights
about your long story. I was thinking whether to post this message
publicly or only to you. But then, I just thought of sending this
message publicly so that readers may learn from this. You know, my
purpose of writing to you is not for anything else but to at least
lessen your burdens. Nung nabasa ko ang journals mo, nanariwa uli sa
‘king ala-ala ang ‘di ko malilimot na yugto sa buhay ko tungkol sa
isang pag-ibig na akala ko ay magkakaroon ng happy ending. Actually, it
did have a happy ending but late have I realized that it was supposed
to be a happy ending. Parehong-pareho ang ating karanasan, yun nga
lang, ang sa ‘yo ay 2 taon, sa akin naman ay 8 taon. Years lang
pinagkaiba. I thought that that relationship would be forever. I
considered him as the extension of myself, my other heart, my soul
mate. He would always tell me that he would never love anyone else but
me, he was willing to live with me, and spend the rest of his life with
me. We would always plan for the future like purchasing a house where
we could live and share things in life, raise kids, spend the rest of
our life taking care of each other. All those sorts of things… you
know. I really do not know what happen to us, I just woke up one
morning feeling betrayed. I would always question him why he had
changed, why he could not love me anymore. What could be that thing
that I did that made him changed? Anyway, to cut the story short, we
separated. I was hurt. I didn’t know what to do then, I was confused, I
felt so alone. I cried almost everyday and went on that way for almost
a year, I thought that was the end of my existence. Eventually, I
realize a lot of things about the meaning of life, the meaning of the
words “letting go”, the real meaning of LOVE, love that is
unconditional, unselfish giving even if your love is unrequited. But
you know, the best learning I had was when I realized that GOD was not
sleeping, that he loved me most and that I am not alone. That I still
have friends and family who are with me all the way, that I still have
a lot of opportunities in life, that I can still go beyond my
existence, explore possibilities and love again. I realized then that
the most beautiful people are the scarred people, agree?

Bakit kita sinulatan? To make you realize that life is like that.
You know, when we pray for strength, God does not give us strength
right away, He gives us opportunities to be strong, when we pray for
love, He does not give us love right away but opportunities to love.
What we experience whether it be happy or sad, are opportunities for us
to know ourselves, to make us realize life’s mysteries and eventually
become a better person. By now I would know that you have learned
something from that experience. Right?

Thanks for sharing your story. I appreciate the way it was
written. I am sure that many people like us can relate to it. Sorry for
my English flaws, I am not really a writer. Di ba happy ending? Ingat
po.

Comment by: lafouge
Posted on: 06-05-2008 @ 07:17 pm

I appreciate the fact that you took time to share your thoughts with the
rest of us. I understand that what you went through has also been
hurtful - 8 years is no joke. I know because prior to my 2 year
relationship, I had a 6 year relationship which I also thought would be
"it". But no. Lesson learned….? You just don’t give up on love just
because you’re hurt or betrayed.. you just keep on loving and hoping
that one day… someone will find you.
Stay happy ok? Keep in touch.